If you are older than twenty years, chances are high that you have been through something traumatic. Some people have been through more things than others, but the longer you have been around, the more you have experienced how tough life can be.  

We live in a world where we learn at a young age that we should never ‘put everything on the table.’ To not be too open about things that go on in our life etcetera, etcetera. 

I certainly agree that when you are talking about things that have emotional weight, you should be careful to do it in a safe environment. Or only with professionals that have a duty of confidentiality. 

But every painful experience you have been through will find its way out anyway. It’ll find its way out in how you approach difficult situations. It could find its way out in how you interact in relationships. Or the worst situation could be, that’ll find it’s way out in your parenting style. And therefore will be given off to your legacy. 

There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. – Luke 12:2 

It’s not something odd that people avoid talking about experiences  that scarred them. 

Because it is painful. 

A friend of mine told me that the process of healing is for the brave. Because often treating the wound hurts more than being wounded. However to fully recover, you have to clean the wound. 

Just as in the physical, when dealing with an emotional wound the first few touches will be the toughest. It will hurt and chances are high you will almost re-live what you have been through. There is a tendency to give up, but right there you have to press on. 

It’ll get better. 

I want to emphasize being  conscious about your coping mechanisms. So that in the process of facing your wounds that you keep yourself safe. 

However the reason that I encourage opening up, is because I’ve seen the benefits of it in my personal life. I know the feeling of carrying painful things on your chest. Thereby have I also experienced the freedom that comes along when emotional pains have been lifted. 

And that freedom is beautiful.